What We’re Reading: How to Know a Person by David Brooks

During our Inspiring Inclusion Webinar, panellist Kelli Hammersmith read an excerpt of David Brooks’s How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen. This inspired us to choose David’s book as this month’s reading recommendation.

David is an Opinion columnist for The New York Times, as well as being the author of several books. With his specialism being centred around political, social, and cultural trends, he has poured his years of expertise into this fantastic book, which explores the true and unkempt value of understanding people on a deeper level. As he himself observes, “The older I get, the more I come to the certainty that there is one skill at the centre of any healthy family, company, classroom, community or nation: the ability to see each other, to know other people, to make them feel valued, heard and understood.”

However, despite the importance of this skill, many of us can often fall short in truly understanding and valuing one another. The book is therefore driven by a series of questions which David endeavours to supply the answers to: what kind of attention should one cast on others? What conversations are vital to truly knowing a person? Which aspects of a person’s history deserve attention?

The answers to these questions are all drawn from various research from the fields of psychology and neuroscience, as well as the worlds of theatre, history, and education – interwoven with David’s own personal experiences and trademark sense of curiosity. This allows the book to act as a helpful and practical guide to fostering deeper connections at home, at work, and throughout our lives.

It is for this reason why we believe that this book is a must read for HR professionals and leaders alike. Our roles require us to understand the fundamentals of being human – it’s in the name! – and David expertly conveys not just how to ensure you are seeing and valuing the people around you, but also why it’s so important to be doing so.

If you would like to discuss how we can help coach your leaders to better understand the art of seeing their employees deeply, please get in touch with us today.

And in the meantime, make sure you grab a copy of How to Know a Person – you can purchase it here in the UK and here in the US.